Divorce rates aren’t changing dramatically for most age groups, but that’s not the case for seniors. For couples in long-term marriages the rates are actually increasing, which is called “gray divorce”.
What To Look Out For In Divorce After Long-Term Marriage
Certainly divorce is difficult no matter how long you’ve been married or how old you are. But if you’re divorcing after a long-term marriage, there’s a whole lot you need to know!
What is “Gray Divorce”?
It’s referring to males and females who married after 40 years or more when the word was first coined. Anyone who has been married for so long must be beginning to gray, hence the name.
Most people in this category were married between 20 and 30 years. In fact, the divorce rate in the United States has decreased over the previous 20 years. But the divorce rate has effectively increased for the over-50s.
8 Reasons Why Seniors Get Divorced
There are 8 reasons long-term couples typically choose to have a late life divorce:
People Grow Apart
Some couples may know the exact cause of a marriage’s downfall, but in a gray divorce there is no significant blowout that led to the divorce. Over time, the spouses just grew apart.
Usually a factor in the divorce is one of two things, empty nest syndrome or retirement. You’ve spent the better part of your marriage raising kids and now you’ve found yourself without a child to focus on. Leaving only your spouse.
Couples are busy when it comes to raising their children. Maybe so busy that with each passing year they don’t notice they grow further apart. But now that one or both are in retirement, they have a lot more time on their hands and again they realize they don’t understand their spouse or wife anymore.
Age is a Factor
We’ve all got one of those friends who every time we ask them how they are go into complain mode of how bad their feet hurt or how they pulled their back out.
Aging can stinks, but it can make us feel older by being around someone who acts old. So for some, it can be an unwelcome reminder when they see their spouse or wife growing older.
So maybe they believe it’s going to reverse time if they divorced their wife for somebody younger.
Some individuals want to create adjustments to the manner after so many years of dressing or feeling the same way. But to do that, they need a spark lit under them for motivation to create the changes they want.
And that’s where interest comes into play in a fresh “unique person.” Sometimes individuals believe they will try harder in life to meet or pursue someone fresh, lose weight, dress better, and assist them accomplish the changes they seek.
A lot of economic mistakes can be ignored when couples are in their prime earning years. Because the cash continues to flow in, the bills are somehow taken care of and the “over-spending” partner is unaware of the precarious economic position of the couple.
But once the revenue stream has stopped and the couple are compelled to live on a fixed income or whatever they have been able to save for retirement, it can be quite sobering. There are abundantly evident differences in expenditure habits. And may lead to one spouse wanting to get divorced.
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