As a child making new friends was easy, but as you get older things get more complicated. It’s not as simple as being on the school playground surrounded by fun-loving kids with endless imaginations and open hearts.
Making friends started with sharing common interests and strong bonds were formed through the simple question of, “Do you want to be my friend?”
Making Friends at 60
As adults we’re shaped by our life experiences that include happiness and hardships. This can affect our ability to develop meaningful relationships.
Some older adults are overcome with anxiety in social situations and are reluctant to approach new people for fear of being rejected. Others have a burning interest in making new friends and developing relationships, but may be unsure where and how to meet new people.
Tips on how to make friends at 60:
Confidence is key in most situations, and meeting new people is no different. Kids have an inherent confidence that allows them to wander up to a complete stranger and ask to be friends, without fear or hesitation.
As adults, many of us lose that sense of confidence and inhibition. When you accept that you are in control and you have the power to influence outcomes, such as making new friends, you develop a sense of confidence in yourself.
Envisioning yourself approaching someone new and introducing yourself, or trying out a new activity or class to meet people will help you feel confident when you’re ready to go for it.
Follow Your Own Hobbies and Interests
By pursuing activities and hobbies that you already enjoy, you are sure to meet people with similar interests. Older adults who are looking to forge a new friendship should pursue their own hobbies and interests, so you’re an interesting person and can meet people who are like-minded.
Take time to consider your own interests. What excites you? What are you passionate about? The benefits of embracing these interests are two-fold: it will encourage you to pursue a passion you enjoy while opening the door of the opportunity to develop real, long-lasting friendships.
Try A New Activity
Trying something new is also a great way to meet people and make possible friendships. Get to know what classes and activities are available in your community. Check out the classes at your local senior center or enroll in educational classes. Also, you can get involved by joining a church or doing exercise classes.
Take Part in Volunteering
Volunteering is a great way to give back to your community, use your skills, and take part in something that is important to you. Also, it’s a great way to meet new people.
There are endless organizations, not-for-profits and charities that are in need of volunteers, so why not give it a try? The American Red Cross and Habitat for Humanity both focus on teamwork and help to build camaraderie by having volunteers work together in groups.
The Victorian Assisted Living and Retirement Community
The Victorian is an assisted living and retirement community that makes living independently, while at the same time feeling safe and secure, a reality. We strive to provide the best quality of life for all residents including those suffering from loneliness and depression.
We offer a comprehensive activity program that includes both physical and social activities to encourage emotional well-being. Our staff is trained to assist those with depression. If you or a loved one are considering assisted living, contact The Victorian today to learn more about our services or tour our community.