It can be a difficult time figuring out how to communicate with your loved one that is dying. It is a challenging and heart-wrenching situation trying to figure out the right words to say. Thankfully, there are certain things to say that can help maintain the dignity and respect they need during their final days.
Feelings of helplessness can arise when being faced with a parent that’s dying. It can be difficult to take the next steps to move forward during this painful time. If you are a caregiver for your parent the struggles can be increased, between managing end-of-life care and dealing with the grief. It can be hard to know what to do or say during this time to bring your loved one comfort.
It’s important to remind yourself during this time that it’s not about you. Feelings of uncomfortableness may arise, but your loved one needs you. Give your love and support to the one that’s dying because they usually know that they’re dying and the secret is for us not to be afraid or runaway from it.
Let your loved one take the lead and don’t desert them during this time. If they want to talk about what’s happening let them, but if they don’t want to that’s okay too. The dying one should be in control of the situation and don’t force conversations on them.
What to Say to Someone Who is Dying
When it’s time to have the conversation with your loved one, keep the focus on their feelings and needs. It can be helpful to think of what to say beforehand and write it down if necessary.
What to keep in mind when talking to your dying loved one:
Take Into Account Their Feelings
Just because your loved one is dying doesn’t mean that you have to avoid talking about it. Be open with them and say you don’t have the answers to the big questions, but you will be with them every step of the way. Be truthful in your responses, but don’t overwhelm them with it either. You want to be there to guide them through the situation. Be open in your conversations with them and allow them to feel loved and supported.
Ask Them to Share Memories
People want to have closure at the end of their lives in different ways. For some it could be mended relationships with family or friends, while others could want to reminisce over all old stories and accomplishments. Give your loved one a chance to open up and process everything they have experienced in their life and what there is to come.
People want to know that their life had significance. Allow them to feel this by having conversations about the legacies they’ve left and what they’ve learned in their lives. By doing this you can help them feel a sense of importance.
Listen To What They Have To Say
By taking the time to listen to your loved one can make you realize what they need most. Ask them what you can do to provide them the best care possible. Let them talk and identify the things that they find most important. Ask them questions like what they’re thinking about and what help they may need.
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